I rarely write about issues I have not experienced...but of course, I am curious.
How important is it for a woman to grow up with a strong, stable father figure in her life? What are "Daddy Issues"? A legitimate gaping hole in the fabric of our society, or the miserable excuses of loose women who are not ready to take responsibility for their depraved actions?
I have always had my father, so I will not offend anyone by judging or pointing fingers. I tried to imagine growing up as a young girl without my father....and to be honest it was not hard. He was young, and he worked hard. Until I turned 7, I did not know that fathers lived with their families... I thought they just visited from time to time. But no matter how many times he was away, I always KNEW I had him, MY Daddy. He was my hero, my provider, my first man. Because of him, my mother was safe, protected, maybe even respected. I never saw her sacrifice her pride to feed me.... never saw her sacrifice her pride to men who came and were gone in months. Because of him, I know that One man can love One woman no matter how difficult she sometimes becomes, or how high the bills get....and even though I act like it's no big deal, I know that my father gives me so much by being there....and being the best man he could be. More importantly, because of his honesty I know that a man who is not perfect is not less than a man....but enough about me already.
Without my father, maybe I would be one of the world's Lost Little Girls too. Maybe I would believe that I always had to be beautiful on the outside and slave for a man's fleeting affection. Maybe I would be unable to stick with one man because I do not know that the next good thing is only new until it gets old. Maybe I would forget to celebrate myself and look for self-love in the arm of another...maybe...or maybe I would be strong, because my mother had a father who loved her and taught her all she needs to raise a good daughter. Who knows?
I am glad I never had to find out what it means not to have my Daddy. Because...who knows?
Ten years and it feels like forever
Ten years and it feels like you left yesterday
You should see me now, trying so hard to be brave for you
You should see me, your mirror-image with even bigger dreams
Nobody understands how desperate I am sometimes,
No one else can feel their hearts tearing and bleeding, and crying and longing
I want to see you again, to tell you all my stories: how life has been cruel, how it has been sweet
I want to tell you how I fell in love, and how he breaks my heart everyday, and why I still love him
I want to ask you so many questions, wish I could learn so much, even if for one day
I want to know how you became a living Legacy, the youngest and brightest of Stars
I feel so lost without you Mum, and every day is like a gamble; a shot in the dark
Sometimes I don't know the right things to say, or the best things to do
Sometimes I listen desperately for your voice, for a little push in the right direction
Sometimes I feel like no one is watching me grow
You should see me now, growing stronger every day
testing my own little wings.
Sometimes I fall. Oh, how I fall
But I get up again, just like you always said, and reach higher, and fly farther
A lot of times I get hurt, and burned, and hurt even more
But I get up again, I reach higher, I fly farther
You should see me now, raising your babies like they were mine
Fighting their battles, soothing their pain
Holding their hands through the hard times and celebrating their success
Your baby boy is almost a man, he is my champion.... You would be so proud
And your baby girl, a leader by nature, a star by day and night,
fearless and tender, she is my rock everyday
I thought I could never live without you, Mum, most days I still do
But I'm learning everyday; it's breaking my heart, but I'm learning
I wish you were here one day longer, so I can tell you again how much I love you
You should see me now..... You can see me now
Just wish I could see you too
Yemisi O. Alade
{1961 - 1998}
Mother, Teacher, Best Friend
So, I had to get creative with this cuz Google obviously has few "Dammi" Posts...
So very weird but fun at the same time...
Start a Google search with your name in inverted commas with "likes to" (eg. "Gordon likes to") and post the first 15 things that come up.
1. Dammi likes to help with the laundry, even though it is really just pulling anything in there out.
Actually, I hate to do laundry, would rather just get new clothes, lol
2. Dammi likes to play with hair
Only mine tho,i'm not that touchy feely
3.Dammi Likes to Dance & Drink.
No truthful comment here.....
4. Dammi likes to be Upah [up]
I guess it means on top, so yea...
5. Dammi likes to move it move it
...And u know it!!
6. Dammi likes to cha cha slide
Sometimes, all that motion can be stressful tho...
7. Dammi likes to get dirty, ride sports bikes, has gorgeous eyes...
lol, yes and yes
8. Dammi likes to hold her food at the roof of her mouth.
Random.....
9. Dammi likes to slouch when she sits.
The fear of Grandma won't let me :)
10. Dammi likes to show off by dancing and singing and it's about all she seems to do.
Hmmmmmnnnn....
11. Dammi likes to get peeps into trouble and then run away!
Oh yes!!! I'm called MiSsChiEF for a good reason
12. Dammi likes to talk to strangers, so please get in touch.
Only cute strangers please....
13. Dammi likes to likes to spend her free time playing softball and working out. She also enjoys spending time with her family..
Dammi doesn't play any kind of ball, she works out, digs her Fam......
14. Dammi likes to write. Plain and simple.
Check out my alter-ego "Dizzy Gossip Girl"
15. Dammi likes to spend her time listening to live music, camping, fishing, traveling, laughing and joking with friends, going to Disneyland and ...
Yea, Dammi is obviously a barrel of fun
I rarely write about issues I have not experienced...but of course, I am curious.
